Stop blaming Myspace (A message from Lisa Reed)

[Sean]

http://www.gunsnroses.us/news/article.php3?id_article=90

Lisa Reed sent out a message to her myspace friends. I could not resist to repost this message. We have many members at the ChineseDemocracy.com Forum and I think this is a must read for all adults, parents, and for the kids.


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Anybody happen to catch Nightline last night on ABC? In case you didn’t, one of the hot topics discussed was MySpace. It is no secret to anyone who reads the newspaper or watches the 6 o’clock news that MySpace has been in the limelight because of "sexual predators" trying to "abduct and corrupt" the youth of the world. To this I say bullshit! I see dozens of profiles a day showing 14 year old girls dressed like sluts, wearing four inches of make up and 32 layers of eyeliner, displaying their age as 18 years old and profile lines stating "Oh, I’m So Sexy" or "Hey There, Wanna Check Up On It?" Come on! The youth of today’s world are already corrupt enough due to the undying need to be "older" than they really are. I seriously doubt there are tons of people on MySpace stalking "innocent young girls" who just happen to have tramped up profiles and ages 4 years greater than their own.

On Nightline, there was a story of a 12 year old girl who was a drug-addict and attributed it all to MySpace. She claims that Myspace allowed her to easily find drug dealers in her area, as well as older men to have sex with her. Now, at the age of 14, she has been checked into a drug-rehabilitation clinic and has been away from her family for 5 months. Her parents would rather place the blame squarely on the shoulders of MySpace instead of their daughter, who even admitted that at the age of 12, had already tried weed, crack, X, and had slept with numerous guys older than herself...but of course, it wasn’t her fault, it was all because of MySpace.

One again, COME ON! When are parents and children going to stop passing the blame and grow up enough to take responsibility for their actions and the actions of their children.. Parent;s, monitor your children online, take some responsibility for YOUR children. Children, if a profile name sounds like something that comes out of a cheap horror movie, like "DARK ANGEL OF DEATH WHO EATS THE BRAINS OF GIRLS"...chances are you DO NOT WANT TO ADD THEM AS A FRIEND. Apparently there is new legislation in Congress now to block MySpace in all public schools and public libraries across the United States. All because little girls want to act grown and don’t want to accept the consequences and parents don’t want to accept the fact that their "innocent little girls" are posing as 18 year old crack whores trying to buy drugs.

Eventually, if this continues, MySpace could be totally outlawed from the Internet. Restrictions will be put in place in order to make MySpace "safer". I don’t know about you, but I use MySpace to keep in touch with my family and friends, use it for messages, and just to have a space that is my own. Just because some children want to act grown, does that mean I may have to eventually give up my MySpace? If you feel the same way I do, please, repost this in your blogs or bulletins, or both as "STOP BLAMING MYSPACE". If enough people post this and spread the word, maybe people will get the picture and stop blaming MySpace for every little thing that their children do wrong. As user of MySpace, we should all repost this and take some sort of action. This is not a chain letter, and nothing will happen to you if you don’t repost this in 321654987 seconds. However, of all bulletins you will read today, I am sure that this one is the only one that actually has a point to it.

A 14 year old girl, and her mother have filed a law suit against Myspace.com(what?) because she was sexually assaulted by another user. She said he lied by saying he was on the high School football team, and THAT gained her trust. Obvisiously if thats all it took to gain her trust, she easily trust pretty much anybody and anyone. She’s suing Myspace.com for $30 million because she believes myspace has poor security. WHAT A CROC! Myspace is not a babysitting service, take responsiblity for your own actions!!! What happened to her is a terrible thing and should never happen to anyone period. Where were her parents? Why are they not held responsible for what thier daughter does in thier own home? Myspace has many many ways of blocking out/screening people, some are: you have to ACCEPT the person you may or may not know as well as deny people you do or do not know, you can have certain sercurity measures added like asking for last name and email address, you can block a person, you can only associate with people you ALREADY know or simply you can NOT be on MySpace if you lack common sense.

Pass this on if you support Tom, and Myspace.com. It’s about time adults take responsibility for their own children, instead of blaming someone else for their own failed parenting.
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your thoughts?

[mongis]

nice read! damn...

[Bonnie]

I like it, its a reminder that "some" parents do not do enuf to monitor their children or even know enuf about what their children are doing where they are going or who they will be with.  

Dont blame the internet when you as a parent are lacking in your job because you either couldnt be assed to know or are "too busy" with what you are doing to know what your children are up to.

She is very right that teenage girls today lie on the drop of a hat and pretend to be older than they are...being on the internet only facilitates that.  

Prime example is my teenager, she lost access to the computers (mine and hers) after she was caught on forums cussing like a fisherman and telling people she was 18 when she was 16, everything that came out of her mouth was a lie both online and offline.  I hold her mother responsible for that, again one of those situations where her mother couldnt be assed to do her job as a parent.

Whats it like in my house, with my children?  

1. They dont get to go on the computer unless their father or I are there.  2. Lying in any way shape or form is a punishable offense -- whether it be removal of a privledge or taking away a favorite toy.
3.  I always know where my children are and who they are with.  They are not allowed to just get up and leave because it blows their skirts up.

Do I think its going to stop the world from revolving or stop someone from attempting to harm them -- of course not -- it just means I stand a better chance of keeping them safe.  I know its not going to be easier as they get older and more independant, but at least given what I know, from when I was that age, and from having the teenager in my house, I am better equipped to handle whatever they can throw at me.

Parents need to be more aware of what their kids are doing, saying and where they are.

[alottaluv4axl]

I read that yesterday. I thought it made alot of good points.


lol, you're just like my mom BB...well, almost...haha.

[mandrill71]

i fucking hate myspace and hope it gets shut down,why do guys or girls keep wanting to be FRIENDS or in some circumstances message people that are clearly married that they want to FUCK them.

myspace creates distrust among people doing things behind partners,wife ,husbands or whatever .

i agree that you cant blame a website for some things that have happened but if predators can easily make contact to underage girls then something needs to change

[Sean]

I only use myspace to communicate to others who have myspace accounts. I don't use it much at all.  but I can understand other people's use for it and I can respect that.

If your kid is brought up to tell the truth and have some value and learned common sense, then nobody can touch them IMHO.

CD.COM is just as innocent as myspace or just as guilty... however you want to look at it.  Don't rely on the law to teach you common sense people.

-BP

[fallenxpunk]

ALL I KNO IS THAT SHES RIGHT.......MYSPACE SHOULDNT GET SHUT DOWN JUST BCUZ OF SOME LITTLE SEX ADDICT SLUTS......

HAHA BONNIE THATS FUNNY.....2. Lying in any way shape or form is a punishable offense -- whether it be removal of a privledge or taking away a favorite toy

LOL...  

[Bonnie]

is that a good thing or a bad thing lottaluv?  

I would think that having parents that know where you are, who you are with and that you are safe would be a good thing.  OK, my parents didnt know when I was a teenager, but thats me and some of you already know my childhood so it comes as no surprise.


As for the lying, it sends me nuts, I cant deal with people who arent honest whether it be to someone else or to themselves.  I dont think as a parent you are doing your job right if your child is consistently telling lies, one leads to another to another to another and soon you are in hole so big you cant dig yourself out. Not to mention that if nothing but lies comes out of your mouth then noone will ever believe a word you say


EDIT: to mention just this.... DAMN I'm OLD

[alottaluv4axl]

is that a good thing or a bad thing lottaluv?  

I would think that having parents that know where you are, who you are with and that you are safe would be a good thing.  OK, my parents didnt know when I was a teenager, but thats me and some of you already know my childhood so it comes as no surprise.


As for the lying, it sends me nuts, I cant deal with people who arent honest whether it be to someone else or to themselves.  I dont think as a parent you are doing your job right if your child is consistently telling lies, one leads to another to another to another and soon you are in hole so big you cant dig yourself out. Not to mention that if nothing but lies comes out of your mouth then noone will ever believe a word you say


EDIT: to mention just this.... DAMN I'm OLD

I guess it's good and bad. Good that my mom is concerned about my safety and well being (and same for you and your kids).

Bad, that if she knew I had myspace, she would not allow it, and be really pissed off even though I do not dress up like a slut and tell guys I want to fuck them n let them carry on harassing me, I don't play that way.

I do not like to lie, I feel bad when I do. To anyone, not just my mom.

[Erik T. Rose]

Now I feel like a horror geek.

"Children, if a profile name sounds like something that comes out of a cheap horror movie, like "DARK ANGEL OF DEATH WHO EATS THE BRAINS OF GIRLS"...chances are you DO NOT WANT TO ADD THEM AS A FRIEND"

[Bonnie]

I guess it's good and bad. Good that my mom is concerned about my safety and well being (and same for you and your kids).

Bad, that if she knew I had myspace, she would not allow it, and be really pissed off even though I do not dress up like a slut and tell guys I want to fuck them n let them carry on harassing me, I don't play that way.

I do not like to lie, I feel bad when I do. To anyone, not just my mom.

you got a pretty good head on your shoulders girl, I can see where your mom can be protective, sometimes it seems overly so Im betting, at your age it must seem like hell, but you really do have to believe that shes only thinking in your best interests.  Trust me when I say to you once hit 20 something you will look back on it and think... geez mybe she didnt have rocks in her head after all.

the lying thing was directed at fallenxpunk, who thought it was funny that I demand honesty above all else from my kids...

Im sortof a different breed of parent I guess, I dont treat my kids like babies, I am honest to the point of brutality with them some days just because I know its a hard... mean... ugly world out there.  The last thing I ever want them to go thru are the hellish nightmares I went thru as a child and teen because my parents were the way they were.  

Its hard to explain why I am the way I am with them without going into graphic details that would make some people really sick

[fallenxpunk]

you got a pretty good head on your shoulders girl, I can see where your mom can be protective, sometimes it seems overly so Im betting, at your age it must seem like hell, but you really do have to believe that shes only thinking in your best interests.  Trust me when I say to you once hit 20 something you will look back on it and think... geez mybe she didnt have rocks in her head after all.

the lying thing was directed at fallenxpunk, who thought it was funny that I demand honesty above all else from my kids...

Im sortof a different breed of parent I guess, I dont treat my kids like babies, I am honest to the point of brutality with them some days just because I know its a hard... mean... ugly world out there.  The last thing I ever want them to go thru are the hellish nightmares I went thru as a child and teen because my parents were the way they were.  

Its hard to explain why I am the way I am with them without going into graphic details that would make some people really sick

goddamn ur so strict....do u let ur kids listen to gnr?

[Bonnie]

goddamn ur so strict....do u let ur kids listen to gnr?

hehe my kids were bottle fed gnr   my son can sing most of the tracks on AFD and hes only 5....

and Im not strict, I just expect my kids to grow up better than I did... (not that I didnt turn out well in the end)

[fallenxpunk]

hehe my kids were bottle fed gnr   my son can sing most of the tracks on AFD and hes only 5....

and Im not strict, I just expect my kids to grow up better than I did... (not that I didnt turn out well in the end)

lol....ur a cool mom then...my mom hates it wen she sees me listenin to them